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November 22, 2023
Title: Developing a Thankful Heart
Topic: Thanksgiving
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Thanksgiving is just right around the corner, which always brings up the topic of thankfulness.
Is it too easy to just say “Thank you” without really having a thankful heart?
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Danny believes that true gratitude is a way of viewing things; it’s a state of amazement over all the things God has given us and done for us.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is Thanksgiving all about?
How can we develop a thankful heart?
How can parents develop a thankful heart in their children? “For kids, it starts off as an emotion,” Danny says. “Help them process and recognize that feeling of thankfulness and then develop that into an attribute.”
Are “Thank You Cards” still relevant and important today?
Has your family started a “Thank You Jar”? Why not???
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here for more on this topic from
Focus on the Family.
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October 27, 2023
Title: Should Christians Celebrate Halloween?
Topic: Halloween
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Halloween is just around the corner. There is no denying that this holiday can be fun for children, but also involves many evil and scary elements. You can celebrate through family friendly, safe events like Fall Fests and Trunk or Treats. However, no matter how much you try and shield your kids from these darker elements, they will still be exposed.
Dr. Daniel “Danny” Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family. Today, he offers some tips on how to navigate this tricky holiday with your children.
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here to help support
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do many parents not think twice in allowing their kids to dress up as demons and devils and parade through the neighborhoods canvasing for candy and treats?
The Left has been secularizing Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter for many years. Is it time Christians take a stand and take over Halloween and have meaningful conversations about good and evil? Dr. Huerta has some great suggestions, especially for teenagers.
Focus on the Family has many resources to guide parents in discussing a Biblical Worldview concerning celebrating Halloween. Click
here to read more.
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June 9, 2023
Title: No Cape. No Problem. The Superpowers of a Dad.
Topic: Father’s Day
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Every child needs a hero. A son needs a man he can imitate and a daughter needs a man who will make her feel protected and secure. Who better to be that hero than Dad?
Dr. Daniel Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Dr. Huerta says: “Each man is unique and his skills are of tremendous value to his family.”
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here to read Danny Huerta’s op-ed.
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here to help support
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
The world can be a tough and scary place. Do our children and grandchildren need to feel protected and secure? Dr. Huerta explains why he believes life is not just about safety; it’s also about pursuing healthy lives physically, emotionally, and relationally.
Do many kids in America lack a Godly male role model?
Are Godly male role models being de-emphasized in America? Dr. Huerta urges men to be good, godly role models and to seek out other men who can help them as well.
How can fathers be more intentional in their kids’ lives?
Click here for more parenting resources and tips from
Focus on the Family.
Check out Iron Sharpens Iron to begin a men’s ministry in your church and community.
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October 11, 2022
Title: October: National Bullying Prevention Month
Topic: Bullying
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the
Family. Today, Danny discusses
National Bullying Prevention Month and ways we can share God’s love
with others who are hurting.
Click here for more
parenting tips from Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are we living in a time where mental health struggles and loneliness are more
rampant than ever, especially among children and teens?
What are some different forms of bullying? Danny discusses cyber bullying,
verbal bullying, sibling/family bullying, and even physical bullying – all of
which can lead to suicidal thoughts, suicide, self-harm, and other destructive
behavior.
What does it mean to be a “noticer”? What is a “builder”?
Click
here for fun activities and to take the family quiz that Danny Huerta
mentions in today’s interview.
How can we be life-giving and intentional with others, even as adults?
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April 25, 2022
Title: What Chores Should Your Kids Be Doing?
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Summer is upon us. Most kids/teens are finished with their
online/stay-at-home school by now. So now what? Many summer camps,
vacation Bible schools, and other activities have been canceled or modified due
to the Coronavirus.
So, what now? Danny Huerta, with Focus on the Family, says CHORES! No,
not really. But – what age-appropriate chores should they be doing?
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here for more on this topic.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Who was the first person to do chores in history? Did God command this?
How can parents determine what chores are age-appropriate for their kids? Should
parents start from an early age?
According to a recent poll, 82% of parents
said that they were given chores as a child. However, only 28% of parents admit
to giving chores to their own kids.
Do kids who do chores perform better in school and society?
Do incentives work? Is consistency important? How are chore charts helpful? How
can parents make chores more enjoyable? Danny has some terrific suggestions and
fun ideas!
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March 7, 2022
Title: Helping Children Understand Bad News
Topic: Russia and Ukraine
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Over the last two years, our children have suffered through a worldwide pandemic. Now, they may be seeing horrible images and hearing awful stories about what is happening in Ukraine.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting for Focus on the Family. Today he offers some helpful information on sharing bad news with young children.
Isaiah 26:3-4 “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.”
Click
here to read the op-ed from
Focus on the Family on this topic.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
As parents and grandparents, should we be careful when we watch the daily news? Danny discusses why its important for us to first determine facts before expressing our concerns. He also reminds us of the power of prayer.
“Be careful little eyes what you see. Be careful little ears what you hear.” Is there a lesson and truth in these words?
How can we help our children and grandchildren process the daily news? Danny says: “Help them be wise consumers of news… Don’t just ignore or avoid it. Kids will consume news at some point… Give them skill sets on how to process it.”
Danny suggests searching “homeschool consuming news” to find helpful resources on this topic.
NOTE: You don’t have to be a homeschool family to gain knowledge on this topic.
Click here for more parenting tips and suggestions from
Focus on the Family.
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February 8, 2022
Title: Is Suicide Predicable – Preventable – Treatable – Curable?
Topic: Suicide and Suicide Prevention
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Cheslie Kryst, 2019 winner of the Miss USA Pageant, died from suicide recently at the age of 30.
Kryst’s death shines a spotlight on a troubling suicide trend among young adults today. Sadly, suicide is now ranked as the second leading cause of death among 10–34-year-olds.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on Family. In response to the current suicide epidemic,
Focus on the Family created
Alive to Thrive, a free online resource for parents and others who regularly interact with youth. The new initiative offers strategies for preventing and responding to suicide.
Click here for more information from
Focus on the Family about suicide. You can also call 1.800.A.FAMILY for help.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
In this segment, Danny Huerta discusses some risk factors and warning signs of teen depression/suicidal thoughts.
Risk Factors:
Previous suicide attempt
Mood disorders
Recipient of bullying
Relationship breakup
Chronic illness
Marijuana use, especially in males
Stress
Knowing another teen who has thought about or committed suicide
Sense of hopelessness, such as their parents divorce or the death of a loved one
Warning signs:
Talk of depression
Shift in personality
Sudden change of interests or hobbies
Not sleeping or sleeping too much
Risk taking
Cutting
Don’t care about life anymore
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Is Suicide Predicable – Preventable – Treatable – Curable?
Topic: Suicide and Suicide Prevention
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
In this segment, Danny Huerta discusses how adults and others can respond
to the warning signs of teen depression/suicidal thoughts.
Why is it important for parents or any other adults to never ignore or dismiss
talk of suicide?
Is it difficult for some families to recognize the warning signs of suicide?
Danny also discusses the importance of strong spiritual, physical, emotional,
and mental health.
Focus on the Family Podcast: Teen Suicide Knowing the Signs
What is Mental Health and Why is it Important for your Family?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Is Suicide Predicable – Preventable – Treatable – Curable?
Topic: Suicide and Suicide Prevention
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
IIs suicide predictable? Danny says that this is complicated; in some
cases – yes; in some cases – no.
Is suicide preventable? Danny says the first attempt might not be, but future
attempts can be. Click
here to read more on the Columbia Suicide Severity Rating Scale.
Is suicide treatable or curable? Danny says that the more the issue is
addressed, the better the odds are that a person will not attempt suicide in the
future.
Click
here for more information about Alive to Thrive: A Biblical Guide to
Preventing Teen Suicide from Focus on the Family.
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July 14, 2021
Title: One Win a Day
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Parents are busy and often feel overwhelmed from all they’re doing while simultaneously feeling guilty for not doing enough. Investing in our kids is one of the most important God-ordained tasks of our lives, so we know we need to do so with intentionality.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth of Focus on the Family. They have created “One Win a Day” – a great way for parents to connect and reconnect with their kids.
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here to sign up for FREE.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Is investing time in our kids and grandkids one of the most important God-ordained tasks in our lives?
What is the intention of the FREE “One Win a Day” Challenge? Danny also explains a few of the challenges…
Is a reminder to spend time with our kids really necessary? Danny believes it is! We set alarms for all sorts of activities, meetings, events… Why not set a reminder to sit down and spend time with your kids?
What will the “One Win a Day” challenge accomplish?
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November 11, 2020
Title: 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Danny Huerta has a passion for equipping parents and grandparents to discipline and MENTOR the next generation.
Danny is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family.
Today, Danny discusses his newest book “7 Traits of Effective Parenting” Click
here
to order your copy.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do we all need help in raising the next generation?
Must we be intentional in how we teach our children and grandchildren to love the Lord?
Danny says parents and grandparents must remember that we are “building contributors rather than consumers in God’s Kingdom Story.” I love that!
Do parents need a ton of grace and forgiveness? Danny shares a GREAT story about one of his kids…
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are literal and metaphorical fences and boundaries necessary? Will boundaries
change over time as the children grow and mature?
How important is showing gratitude toward our children and others? Danny recalls
a great lesson he learned a long time ago as a teenager…
Can there be a lasting, nurturing relationship without love?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is the theme of Danny’s newest “7
Traits of Effective Parenting”?
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September 9, 2020
Title: 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Danny Huerta has a passion for equipping parents and grandparents to discipline and MENTOR the next generation.
Danny is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family.
Today, Danny discusses his newest book “7 Traits of Effective Parenting” Click
here
to order your copy.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do we all need help in raising the next generation?
Must we be intentional in how we teach our children and grandchildren to love the Lord?
Danny says parents and grandparents must remember that we are “building contributors rather than consumers in God’s Kingdom Story.” I love that!
Do parents need a ton of grace and forgiveness? Danny shares a GREAT story about one of his kids…
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are literal and metaphorical fences and boundaries necessary? Will boundaries
change over time as the children grow and mature?
How important is showing gratitude toward our children and others? Danny recalls
a great lesson he learned a long time ago as a teenager…
Can there be a lasting, nurturing relationship without love?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - 7 Traits of Effective Parenting
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is the theme of Danny’s newest “7
Traits of Effective Parenting”?
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June 1, 2020
Title: What Chores Should Your Kids Be Doing?
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Summer is upon us. Most kids/teens are finished with their
online/stay-at-home school by now. So now what? Many summer camps,
vacation Bible schools, and other activities have been canceled or modified due
to the Coronavirus.
So, what now? Danny Huerta, with Focus on the Family, says CHORES! No,
not really. But – what age-appropriate chores should they be doing?
Click
here for more on this topic.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Who was the first person to do chores in history? Did God command this?
How can parents determine what chores are age-appropriate for their kids? Should
parents start from an early age?
According to a recent poll, 82% of parents
said that they were given chores as a child. However, only 28% of parents admit
to giving chores to their own kids.
Do kids who do chores perform better in school and society?
Do incentives work? Is consistency important? How are chore charts helpful? How
can parents make chores more enjoyable? Danny has some terrific suggestions and
fun ideas!
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April 28, 2020
Title: Transitioning into Post-Quarantine Life
Topic: Post Coronavirus
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Are we living a new “normal”? Will things ever go back to the way they once were?
Parenting author and expert Danny Huerta has some advice to share with parents as they begin to have conversations with their kids/teens about what a new normal looks like.
“This is going to be a gradual process that’s probably different in every area of the country, but we can never forget how important it is to communicate clearly and effectively with our kids,” he said.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is the mission of Focus on the Family?
How has FOF expanded their mission during the Coronavirus quarantine?
Has FOF seen an uptick in calls about depression, anxiety, and suicide?
NOTE: More on this in the second segment today.
When life goes back to “normal”, what will happen to all these new resources?
Are kids/teens/adults really impacted for eternity because of FOF? Danny reveals how, for the past ten years, they have printed a special salvation issue of the Clubhouse Magazine for the month of April.
This year, 46 kids accepted Jesus as their Savior because of the magazine. Over those ten years, over 700 have! Praise the Lord!
Click here to sign up for the FREE
Focus on the Family streaming platform, which is a great one-stop resource that has something for everyone – from toddlers to senior adults!
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Transitioning into Post-Quarantine Life
Topic: Post Coronavirus
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Why does Danny encourage everyone (not just adults who are working from home) to
get dressed every day? Does this actually help with mental health issues?
How can too much technology and too much work affect our mental health? Danny
has some great suggestions for people to shake off the depression, anxiety, and
stress.
NOTE: Please do not hesitate to call Focus on the Family
if you feel stressed, anxious, or worried. They are there to help you! The
toll-free number is 1-800-A-FAMILY.
How will the transition back to “normal” affect children? Should
parents take baby steps back to work? Should spouses be careful about spending
too much time apart? Is communication key? Is balance just as important?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Transitioning into Post-Quarantine Life
Topic: Post Coronavirus
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
As we transition back to “normal life”, should we all pray about what
will receive our time and effort?
Danny uses the word “invitation” to explain how he and his family
approach this. “Look at the invitations that are important to your soul,”
he says.
Remember: Focus on the Family is here for you 24/7.
Don’t hesitate to call 1.800.A.FAMILY or click here
for more information and help.
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March 19, 2020
Title: Coronavirus: Time to Focus on Your Family
Topic: Coronavirus
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Due to “social distancing” from the Coronavirus, many
families are finding themselves in unique situations that they’ve never had to
deal with. While this can bring on many challenges, Focus on the Family wants to help alleviate as many of those challenges for you as possible and be a valuable resource for you and your family during this time.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family.
More helpful tips and information can be found
here.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should we not only talk to children and teens, but older adults as well who may be confused?
Should we also keep communication open and flowing with our spouse?
How much should parents tell their kids/teens about what is going on?
Danny has some great suggestions for activities you can do with your family – both at home and outdoors (while still social distancing from others)…
For more tips and suggestions, download the “Conversation Starter App” by
Focus on the Family available for iPhone and Android.
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February 6, 2020
Title: New Teen Online Danger: The Outlet Challenge
Topic: Outlet Challenge
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Kids being ‘double-dog dared’ to try the “Outlet
Challenge". As if the world wasn’t dangerous enough, there is a new danger awaiting teens who are online using social media. What are your kids worth? Are they worth the time to get informed and then to protect them from trying this new fad?
Danny Huerta, a family expert with Focus on the Family, describes the newest “fad” on TikTok: The Outlet Challenge.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
We all know that social media is dangerous. But how can teens be in danger when they are offline?
For parents that don’t know… What is TikTok? Why is it so bad?
What is the “Outlet Challenge”? Has this challenge resulted in arrests and damaged property?
How can parents warn and protect their children/teens from this dangerous “game”?
Do teens sometimes forget their actions have consequences? Danny says: “Be an intentional parent and have necessary conversations with your kids!” Your kids will thank you later for being an “uncool parent”!
Click here for more help from Focus on the Family.
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January 15, 2020
Title: California Trend: This One is Positive!
Topic: Positive Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Trends in California usually gravitate across the country.
Those trends are normally not positive. Danny Huerta, Vice President of Parenting at
Focus on the Family, discusses a trend from California that is definitely worth spreading!
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Why did one county in California start a new trend eight years ago: Positive Parenting Awareness Month?
What does “positive parenting” mean to Focus on the Family? Danny suggests we also have a “Positive Marriage Awareness Month”. Listen to how they go hand-in-hand…
Should parents have realistic expectations on our children? How is this achieved?
Is our tone of voice important when speaking with children (and others)?
What are the “7 Traits of Effective Parenting”? (Click on the link below to learn more about this.)
Is it possible to remain positive during the teenage years? How does parenting teens differ from parenting children? Danny offers some great information!
Click here for FREE resources from
Focus on the Family.
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November 27, 2019
Title: Developing a Thankful Heart
Topic: Thanksgiving
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Thanksgiving is just right around the corner, which always brings up the topic of thankfulness.
Is it too easy to just say “Thank you” without really having a thankful heart?
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Danny believes that true gratitude is a way of viewing things; it’s a state of amazement over all the things God has given us and done for us.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is Thanksgiving all about?
How can we develop a thankful heart?
How can parents develop a thankful heart in their children? “For kids, it starts off as an emotion,” Danny says. “Help them process and recognize that feeling of thankfulness and then develop that into an attribute.”
Are “Thank You Cards” still relevant and important today?
Has your family started a “Thank You Jar”? Why not???
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here for more on this topic from
Focus on the Family.
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October 29, 2018
Title: A Parent’s Guide to Technology
Topic: Kids and Technology
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Do you really know what your kids are looking at and downloading on
their cell phones and computers?
Focus on the Family Counselor and Vice President of Parenting Danny
Huerta says this: "Technology by itself isn't a good or bad thing…Today's
technology can enhance our lives or cause serious damage. In order to keep kids
safe, it's important for parents to recognize how a mobile device can affect a
child's brain."
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are tablets, phones, and other devices enabling kids to see what they should not
be seeing?
How many hours per day do kids spend on average using some sort of device (not
for school work)?
Do parents want their children to spend less time watching TV and using
electronic devices?
Do too many parents regret buying their young children a cell phone or computer?
What can parents do to safeguard their children and even themselves from the
dangers that are online? Danny Huerta says “limits are a good thing!”
Listen as he explains how your children WILL benefit.
PARENTS: Click
here
to download the FREE Focus on the Family Tech Guide and for links to
Net Nanny (web filtering) and Forcefield (parental control
software).
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August 16, 2018
Title: Getting Back into the School Routine
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Backpacks, pencils, folders, and lunch boxes are lining department store shelves as “back-to-school” season arrives.
As parents trade the carefree days of summer schedules with rushed morning school drop-offs, sports practices and PTA meetings, the thought of returning to the routine can be a bit daunting.
Danny Huerta has some suggestions to help the summer-to-school transition go smoothly! Danny is the Vice President of Parenting at
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Why are routines so important for kids AND parents? Are those routines different for every family?
Should parents include their kids in the monthly planning/scheduling? How can parents make this a “fun activity”? Danny has some great ideas to get your started! Terry has some great recommendations, too!
Are family dinners important to strengthening relationships?
Final suggestion from Terry: Team up with another couple and trade off your kiddos so you and your spouse can have a date night at least once a month. And Danny adds: Even a simple walk can do wonders for your relationship with both your spouse AND your kids.
Click
here for more helpful back-to-school tips from
Focus on the Family.
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May 30, 2018
Title: Should your Teen get a Summer Job?
Topic: Teens and Jobs
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting with Focus on the Family. Today, Danny will be discussing the importance of teens learning responsibility, accountability, money management, and confidence through summer jobs.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are kids “too busy” to do chores? HINT: Absolutely NOT!
Should younger kids have chores that they get paid for? Danny encourages parents to get creative with this!
Danny also suggests that kids have chores they are required to do in addition to “extra chores” that result in incentives like money or treats. He says: “That’s just part of being part of the community of the home.”
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Should your Teen get a Summer Job?
Topic: Teens and Jobs
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Danny and his wife have celebrations for their kids for a job well-done. Listen
as he explains how they accomplish this without spoiling their kids.
How can completing chores prepare teens for their first job as a high school
student?
Does a good work ethic start at age 16 or age 3?
Do too many parents allow their teens to “slack off” instead of
supplying them with the means to build character?
Do summer jobs allow teens the opportunity to learn proper money management?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Should your Teen get a Summer Job?
Topic: Teens and Jobs
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What was Danny Huerta’s first job and how old was he?
How can parents know when and if their teen is ready for their first job? Danny
says: “There is not a magical age, but there is a temperamental age!”
Listen as he explains…
What other benefits do summer jobs offer teens?
How many hours per week should teens work during the summer months?
Click
here for more on this and other parenting topics from Focus on the
Family.
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April 19, 2018
Title: Kids View Pornography
Topic: Kids View Pornography
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
For most kids, it’s not a question of whether they’ll see a pornographic image – it’s when.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting with Focus on the Family. Today, Danny offers some advice for parents when this tough situation finds its way into their homes.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is the average age when a person is first exposed to pornography? NOTE: This will shock and disgust you!
What is the percentage of girls and boys who view pornography before the age of 18?
Is it natural for parents, especially Christian parents, to react in fear and anger?
Danny Huerta reminds us that sex is about “healthy sexuality and the grander picture of why God created sex in the first place.”
Are children who are sexually abused/molested more likely to view pornography? Do many also enter the pornography industry as adults?
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Kids View Pornography
Topic: Kids View Pornography
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How can parents prepare for the pornography talk with their kids?
Listen as Danny discusses a conversation he had with his 8 year old son
concerning a “certain store” in the mall. He also suggests weekly talks
with boys about being kind, respectful, and compassionate to girls.
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Kids View Pornography
Topic: Kids View Pornography
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How should parents respond when they discover that their child has viewed
pornography?
What questions should parents ask their kids concerning pornography? Yes –
parents need to ask their kids questions! Listen as Danny explains…
To view more information on this and other parenting topics, click
here.
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March 8, 2018
Title: The 8 Worst Ways to Encourage a Child
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Danny Huerta is a dad, coach, family counselor, and Vice President
of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Danny has seen his share of well-meaning but less-than-helpful praise from parents. Today, he will be sharing “The 8 Worst Ways to Encourage a Child”.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do most parents mean well when they try to encourage their children?
How can parents supplement the superficial feedback kids receive from outside sources? Danny uses Philippians 4:8 as a reference…
Should parents be telling toddlers “great job”? Do toddlers even know the meaning of the word “job”? What should parents say in place of “job”?
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - The 8 Worst Ways to Encourage a Child
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Society now believes that everybody wins – everybody should get a trophy. Is
this healthy?
What if Michael Jordan quit when a coach said he wasn’t good enough?
What if David quit after he missed Goliath the first time?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - The 8 Worst Ways to Encourage a Child
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should parents give dishonest feedback? In other words, are “little white lies”
okay?
Jennifer is good at singing. Her sister, Melissa, is good at ballet. Should
parents encourage both girls to do both activities?
This is a tough one: Do we urge our children to face their fears – or not face
them at all?
Are the words “please” and “thank you” still relevant?
What is someone tells your daughter “Oh, you are SO pretty?” Or tells our son
“You are the best football player I’ve even seen!” How should parents react?
What is an empty compliment and why should parents avoid them?
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January 10, 2018
Title: A Parent’s Guide to Technology
Topic: Kids and Technology
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Do you really know what your kids are looking at and downloading on
their cell phones and computers?
Focus on the Family Counselor and Vice President of Parenting Danny
Huerta says this: "Technology by itself isn't a good or bad thing…Today's
technology can enhance our lives or cause serious damage. In order to keep kids
safe, it's important for parents to recognize how a mobile device can affect a
child's brain."
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are tablets, phones, and other devices enabling kids to see what they should not
be seeing?
How many hours per day do kids spend on average using some sort of device (not
for school work)?
Do parents want their children to spend less time watching TV and using
electronic devices?
Do too many parents regret buying their young children a cell phone or computer?
What can parents do to safeguard their children and even themselves from the
dangers that are online? Danny Huerta says “limits are a good thing!”
Listen as he explains how your children WILL benefit.
PARENTS: Click
here
to download the FREE Focus on the Family Tech Guide and for links to
Net Nanny (web filtering) and Forcefield (parental control
software).
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January 3, 2018
Title: Chores Don’t Mean War!
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
You are doing your best to raise a responsible adult. They want to play. You are tired, so you don’t want to fight. They have endless energy, especially to get their way. Do you do the chores yourself? Or do you dig in and fight the battle? Either way, it does not seem like a win-win scenario.
Danny Huerta, our go-to family expert, says that teaching kids responsibility
doesn’t have to feel like war. Click
here for the FREE guide from
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Does it have to be WWIII when it comes to doing chores?
Some of you may have teenagers or college students living at home. Is it too late to start now?
Danny says to STOP saying one word to your kids when it’s time to do chores. Listen in to find out what he says to STOP doing!
Should parents pay their children for doing chores?
What is one tip that Danny recommends families implement immediately to keep the clutter at bay?
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December 28, 2017
Title: Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
From pretend tea parties to periods, boyfriends, shaving armpits, and Snapchat… A dad’s role in raising girls is perplexing and challenging. Unfortunately, in order to avoid these tough situations, too many men opt out, give up, give in, or go away.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Today, he will be offering tips for dads on how to connect with their daughters.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do all girls need their dad, no matter their age?
Will girls compare every man they meet throughout their lives to their father? Is this why it is so important for dads to have a good relationship with their daughters?
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How can a dad connect, and stay connected, with his daughter?
Danny has some great tips for dads with daughters of all ages: play pretend when
they’re young and read to her; have 60 seconds of connect time in the morning
and the evening with tweens and teens; make time for date night with your
daughter no matter her age.
Is it important to ask questions? Is it equally important to listen without
interruption or judgement?
What challenges to step-dads face when raising step-daughters?
Are there other ways for dads who don’t have custody of their daughter to connect?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Some fathers are completely absent from their daughter’s life. How can a single
mom bring influential men in to help fill that gap?
One point Danny brings up is how we all want our marriage to last, so we work
and work on it and carve time for our spouse to make them feel special. The same
concept can – and should – be applied to our kids, both boys and girls.
What is Danny’s Number One piece of advice for all dads of daughters?
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September 26, 2017
Title: Chores Don’t Mean War!
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
You are doing your best to raise a responsible adult. They want to play. You are tired, so you don’t want to fight. They have endless energy, especially to get their way. Do you do the chores yourself? Or do you dig in and fight the battle? Either way, it does not seem like a win-win scenario.
Danny Huerta, our go-to family expert, says that teaching kids responsibility
doesn’t have to feel like war. Click
here for the FREE guide from
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Does it have to be WWIII when it comes to doing chores?
Some of you may have teenagers or college students living at home. Is it too late to start now?
Danny says to STOP saying one word to your kids when it’s time to do chores. Listen in to find out what he says to STOP doing!
Should parents pay their children for doing chores?
What is one tip that Danny recommends families implement immediately to keep the clutter at bay?
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September 21, 2017
Title: Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
From pretend tea parties to periods, boyfriends, shaving armpits, and Snapchat… A dad’s role in raising girls is perplexing and challenging. Unfortunately, in order to avoid these tough situations, too many men opt out, give up, give in, or go away.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family. Today, he will be offering tips for dads on how to connect with their daughters.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do all girls need their dad, no matter their age?
Will girls compare every man they meet throughout their lives to their father? Is this why it is so important for dads to have a good relationship with their daughters?
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How can a dad connect, and stay connected, with his daughter?
Danny has some great tips for dads with daughters of all ages: play pretend when
they’re young and read to her; have 60 seconds of connect time in the morning
and the evening with tweens and teens; make time for date night with your
daughter no matter her age.
Is it important to ask questions? Is it equally important to listen without
interruption or judgement?
What challenges to step-dads face when raising step-daughters?
Are there other ways for dads who don’t have custody of their daughter to connect?
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - Dads and Their Daughters
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Some fathers are completely absent from their daughter’s life. How can a single
mom bring influential men in to help fill that gap?
One point Danny brings up is how we all want our marriage to last, so we work
and work on it and carve time for our spouse to make them feel special. The same
concept can – and should – be applied to our kids, both boys and girls.
What is Danny’s Number One piece of advice for all dads of daughters?
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August 14, 2017
Title: Getting Back into the Back-To-School Routine
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Parents across the country are gearing up for the start of another
school year. Danny Huerta, the Vice President of Parenting with
Focus on the Family, has some tips and suggestions to make the
transition from pool time to homework time more bearable for everyone.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Does having a routine improve a child’s academic outcome? Danny offers several
statistics to encourage a routine in your child’s life from an early age, not
just concerning school. “Having a routine helps you control what you can so
you don’t get distracted by what you can’t,” Danny states. Listen to find
out what he means by this statement.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Getting Back into the Back-To-School Routine
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is the “60 Second Rule”? No, it doesn’t have anything to do with
food dropping on the floor!
Is praying together as a family important to create a sense of security within
your children?
Listen as Danny Huerta discusses how everything from dividing chores to weekly
celebrations can be a routine in your home. “Routines don’t have to be a
dictatorship,” he states.
For a FREE resource concerning this interview, click
here.
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July 12, 2017
Title: Summer Tips for Blended Families
Topic: Blended Families
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Danny Huerta, with Focus on the Family, has some helpful
summer tips for the many, many parents who are part of a “blended family”.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How can the non-custodial parent help ease the transition when their kids come
to stay with them during the summer or other holidays?
Is consistency important between the two households?
Why is it vital for parents to be flexible?
Danny suggests planning a fun outing for the first night kids are with their
parent. It doesn’t have to be expensive – a simple ice cream stop will suffice!
Listen as he offers other memory-making ideas.
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June 26, 2017
Title: Chores Don’t Mean War!
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
You are doing your best to raise a responsible adult. They want to play. You are tired, so you don’t want to fight. They have endless energy, especially to get their way. Do you do the chores yourself? Or do you dig in and fight the battle? Either way, it does not seem like a win-win scenario.
Danny Huerta, our go-to family expert, says that teaching kids responsibility
doesn’t have to feel like war. Click
here for the FREE guide from
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Does it have to be WWIII when it comes to doing chores?
Some of you may have teenagers or college students living at home. Is it too late to start now?
Danny says to STOP saying one word to your kids when it’s time to do chores. Listen in to find out what he says to STOP doing!
Should parents pay their children for doing chores?
What is one tip that Danny recommends families implement immediately to keep the clutter at bay?
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January 30, 2017
Title: When Tough Dads Play Barbie
Topic: Parenting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
When men have daughters, something in them dramatically changes.
Even the toughest of men can develop a soft spot for relating to
their little girls. Recently, Mattel knocked it out of the park with a
Barbie commercial
showing tough dads playing dolls with their girls.
Danny Huerta is the Vice President of Parenting at Focus on the Family.
Listen in as he encourages dads to be actively involved in their daughter’s
lives.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Fathers have an emotional and psychological impact on their daughters, whether
positive or negative. Should fathers begin today to positively affect their
daughters, no matter their age?br />
How can fathers make meaningful connections with their daughters? Brad has some
very practical (and easy!) ways which fathers can connect with their daughters.
Why do girls need their dads in such a deep way?
Click
here for some more inspiration!
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January 18, 2017
Title: Chores Don’t Mean War!
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
You are doing your best to raise a responsible adult. They want to play. You are tired, so you don’t want to fight. They have endless energy, especially to get their way. Do you do the chores yourself? Or do you dig in and fight the battle? Either way, it does not seem like a win-win scenario.
Danny Huerta, our go-to family expert, says that teaching kids responsibility
doesn’t have to feel like war. Click
here for the FREE guide from
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Does it have to be WWIII when it comes to doing chores?
Some of you may have teenagers or college students living at home. Is it too late to start now?
Danny says to STOP saying one word to your kids when it’s time to do chores. Listen in to find out what he says to STOP doing!
Should parents pay their children for doing chores?
What is one tip that Danny recommends families implement immediately to keep the clutter at bay?
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December 14, 2016
Title: What does Nomophobia Mean?
Topic: Technology
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
For most teenagers, cell phones have become like a third arm. Even normal daily functions like waiting for the school bus or having a conversation seem impossible without the mobile device glued to their hands.
What would happen to these teens without cell phones? The Today Show decided to find out by convincing nine teens to relinquish their
smart phones for a week.
Listen in as Danny Huerta, Vice President of Parenting with Focus on the Family, shares the results of this experiment, in addition to some great parenting tips.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is Nomophobia?
How many hours per day do teens and tweens spend on some sort of device?
What happened when nine teens went “unplugged” for a week?
Were the teens happier after their week without distractions?
Could YOU go technology-free for a week? (with the exception of work and school responsibilities)
Would you feel naked without your cell phone? Would you freak out if lost it?
Danny Huerta suggests having a “cell phone bucket” by the front door when you have a holiday party – or any get-together. He also recommends that teens not have smart phones until they are older. Listen in as he explains why. Click
here for more suggestions.
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December 13, 2016
Title: When Your Kid is the Grinch
Topic: Christmas
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
“I want! I want! I want! I want!” Is this all you are
hearing right now from your kids?
Danny Huerta offers some great advice for curbing your child’s Grinch-like
attitude, focusing on serving others this Christmas season in a way every child
can relate to and understand.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Too many people – of all ages – are too focused on “things” at Christmastime
(and all the time). How can we stop this materialistic attitude?
What can parents do for their children to teach thankfulness?
Should parents set a budget for Christmas presents and stick to it?
How does serving others teach our children (and us) to be more thankful?
For more tips, click here.
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December 2, 2016
Title: When Your Kid is the Grinch
Topic: Christmas
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
“I want! I want! I want! I want!” Is this all you are
hearing right now from your kids?
Danny Huerta offers some great advice for curbing your child’s Grinch-like
attitude, focusing on serving others this Christmas season in a way every child
can relate to and understand.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Too many people – of all ages – are too focused on “things” at Christmastime
(and all the time). How can we stop this materialistic attitude?
What can parents do for their children to teach thankfulness?
Should parents set a budget for Christmas presents and stick to it?
How does serving others teach our children (and us) to be more thankful?
For more tips, click here.
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September 23, 2016
Title: The Cell Phone Coop
Topic: Family Time
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Chick-Fil-A is in the news again – this time for a strange new challenge for their patrons.
CFA is asking their customers to put their cell phones away while they are dining in their restaurant. In fact, they have designed a “Cell Phone Coop” for people to keep their cell phones in while they’re eating!
We have become a “disconnected society” in regards to personal interaction. Here to discuss this phenomenon is Danny Huerta, with
Focus on the Family. “We have to put a limit on ourselves,” Danny says. It’s very tempting to check our phones every time it dings and that is exactly the point behind CFA’s “Cell Phone Coop”.
“People complain about not having a depth of relationship with others. Many times we are relying on them to create that depth, rather than ourselves,” Danny believes. Tune in to the next segment as Danny Huerta discusses practical steps to help families disconnect from their phones and reconnect with each other.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - The Cell Phone Coop
Topic: Family Time
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
In today’s society, everyone – from the toddler to the grandpa – has
become distracted with electronics. Parents whip out their cell
phone or a tablet for their 4 year old to play with at the restaurant. Daddy
reads his email while eating dinner. Mama checks Facebook and Pinterest as her
children talk eagerly about what happened at school that day. Kids are playing
Minecraft or texting their friends about weekend plans instead of helping
prepare dinner. Sometimes I long for simpler days…
Danny Huerta has some great practical tips to help families reconnect with each
other, especially at mealtime. However, first he explains that some people are
introverts and do not enjoy conversation as much as others. We have to be
sensitive to that fact. Parents should discuss this issue with their children,
no matter their age, before shoving the new “no-cell-phone” rule down their
throats.
Chick-Fil-A is rewarding patrons with a free ice cream cone if they
leave their cell phones in the “Cell Phone Coop” for the duration of their meal.
Danny suggests trying this same technique for a week, and as an incentive, your
family will be rewarded with a special dinner or other activity. During the week
at home, have a list of questions for your kids and have your kids ask you
questions, as well!
If you would like more information or if you need to talk to someone about
family-related issues, please call 1.800.A.FAMILY
EDITOR’S NOTE: One thing I have done with my children is print
a variety of “table games” and cut the activities into strips (i.e.: one
activity per strip of paper) and place them all in a bowl. Every night, someone
gets to choose a strip from the bowl; go around the table, taking turns,
discussing the game or activity. Usually, we are still laughing and talking
after we’ve eaten all our food! Examples of games: Name things that have your
favorite color in it – and not just one thing; keep it going the whole meal!
What is your dream vacation and describe it in detail – even little ones can
participate! Another great one: Everyone names a food, starting with the letter
A. The next night, you name foods starting with the letter B. There are 26
letters in the alphabet, so that’s 26 nights of fun! But here’s the kicker –
every time someone names a new food, they have to list all the foods previously
mentioned! You really have to listen closely to each other!
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August 24, 2016
Title: Your Money Tree Wilting?
Topic: Focus on the Family
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
The wilting money tree is a problem many parents are facing – even
those who are wealthy. It seems like the more money you have, the more stuff you
buy!
Danny Huerta recently offered his opinion concerning a
USA Today article by Brett Graff, which challenged parents to “strategically
about their spending decisions”. Listen in as he discusses the importance
of focusing on the family, not things.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are too many families, parents in particular, spending too much on things and
activities for their kids and grandkids?
Is this mad rush to spend so much on things and activities for our kids leading
to a wilting money tree? Danny offers three money rules: make your own normal,
make God the center of everything, and teach kids the value of money. Listen in
as he expands on each.
How should parents and grandparents begin to think strategically about the way
money is used to provide activities and opportunity for kids?
Should parents re-evaluate their spending commitments during the summer months
before the school year begins? Sometimes it’s harder than “writing a PHD paper,”
Danny believes.
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July 13, 2016
Title: Talking to Your Kids about Bad Things that Happen
Topic: Bad Things Happen to Good People
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Life, with all its ups and downs and twists and turns, is hard enough for adults. When breaking news interrupts our daily lives with reports of police shootings and the shootings of police officers, what do we tell our children?
Danny Huerta is a counselor with Focus on the Family. Violence and racism are unfortunately a part of our society. He believes it is very important for parents to be sensitive to their children who may be scared after hearing of the shootings that have occurred recently.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Our children and grandchildren may overhear us talking about the recent shootings. If we are troubled, aren’t
our children, too? First, we must learn to cope with the sadness, anger, and confusion ourselves before we begin to explain the situation to our kids. Listen in as Danny offers suggestions for adults.
Explaining violence and racism to kids is often avoided or tackled at the wrong time. Danny discusses the appropriate time, age, and how much should be shared; a lot depends on your child’s maturity.
Editor’s Note: It is also important to focus on the positive. Mr. Rogers once stated: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.' To this day, especially in times of 'disaster,' I remember my mother's words, and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world."
How should we respond when someone asks “Why do bad things happen?”
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July 6, 2016
Title: Your Money Tree Wilting?
Topic: Focus on the Family
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
The wilting money tree is a problem many parents are facing – even
those who are wealthy. It seems like the more money you have, the more stuff you
buy!
Danny Huerta recently offered his opinion concerning a
USA Today article by Brett Graff, which challenged parents to “strategically
about their spending decisions”. Listen in as he discusses the importance
of focusing on the family, not things.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are too many families, parents in particular, spending too much on things and
activities for their kids and grandkids?
Is this mad rush to spend so much on things and activities for our kids leading
to a wilting money tree? Danny offers three money rules: make your own normal,
make God the center of everything, and teach kids the value of money. Listen in
as he expands on each.
How should parents and grandparents begin to think strategically about the way
money is used to provide activities and opportunity for kids?
Should parents re-evaluate their spending commitments during the summer months
before the school year begins? Sometimes it’s harder than “writing a PHD paper,”
Danny believes.
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June 17, 2016
Title: What are Dads Good for Anyway?
Topic: Daddy Time
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Men in general and dad’s in particular are too often the blunt of bad jokes.
Danny Huerta is the executive director of the Parenting and Youth department at
Focus on the Family. In this role, Danny oversees initiatives that equip parents to disciple and mentor the next generation so they can thrive in Christ. Today, however, he wants to focus on DADS.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Dads are often the fixer, the rough-houser who gets down on the floor and becomes the bunching bag, and even the protector of teenage daughters. But, are dads good for so much more than laughs and protection?
Is there a difference between a “dad” and a “father”?
How does Danny Huerta counsel the single mom?
Do dads make families more successful emotionally, financially, psychologically, and physically? Danny says, “We offer the opportunity for kids to see us and want to be like us, which puts a lot of pressure (on us), but we don’t have to be perfect because we point them to Christ.”
Why do dads make such a difference in families?
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April 6, 2016
Title: Parenting Tech Obsessed Kids
Topic: Focus on the Family
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Parents, your children want you to pay attention to them.
Studies from both secular and Christian sources prove that your kids are hungry
for “interpersonal connectivity”. Just turn the cell phone and television off
and talk to your kids. If dinner is too hectic with after school activities,
then sit down at breakfast. If breakfast is too difficult, then try it at dinner
time, even if it is just twice a week. Put the phone down. Sit at the table, not
on the couch. And talk to your kids. If you are running from work to soccer to
piano to church, try turning off the radio and talking while you are driving –
even with a mouthful of CFA! After a few weeks, you will notice a dramatic
difference in not only your children, but you as well.
Danny Huerta is a Family Counselor with Focus on the Family. He is here
today to discuss “Parenting Today’s Kids in a Tech-Obsessed World”. As
a counselor with a private practice, he talks with parents frequently on this
very issue. For example, when a new video game is released, kids and teens want
to spend hours and hours perfecting their skills to get to the next level and
win. Listen in as Danny explains that oftentimes too much game or screen time
can actually change their brain and personality! “Their brains are actually
being restructured.”
Children and teens may not be thrilled with you when you begin to limit their
game and screen time, but over time they realize it really is the best thing. “We’re
not here to make our kids happy,” Danny reminds us. “We’re here to help
them lead lives that will have happiness.” Danny has some great tips for
parents who want to limit their kids game and screen time but aren’t sure where
to start. Listen in as he gives some helpful suggestions.
COMPUTER AND PHONE TIP: There are many online filtering
websites which ensure your kids are not viewing inappropriate material, such as:
Net Nanny, Covenant Eyes, Be Secure, and others. It is vital that you have a
protection on your computer, especially with curious teens in the house. There
are also apps for smart phones.
For more information on this issue, click here or
call 1.800.AFAMILY
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March 10, 2016
Title: The Cell Phone Coop
Topic: Family Time
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Chick-Fil-A is in the news again – this time for a strange new challenge for their patrons.
CFA is asking their customers to put their cell phones away while they are dining in their restaurant. In fact, they have designed a “Cell Phone Coop” for people to keep their cell phones in while they’re eating!
We have become a “disconnected society” in regards to personal interaction. Here to discuss this phenomenon is Danny Huerta, with
Focus on the Family. “We have to put a limit on ourselves,” Danny says. It’s very tempting to check our phones every time it dings and that is exactly the point behind CFA’s “Cell Phone Coop”.
“People complain about not having a depth of relationship with others. Many times we are relying on them to create that depth, rather than ourselves,” Danny believes. Tune in to the next segment as Danny Huerta discusses practical steps to help families disconnect from their phones and reconnect with each other.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - The Cell Phone Coop
Topic: Family Time
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
In today’s society, everyone – from the toddler to the grandpa – has
become distracted with electronics. Parents whip out their cell
phone or a tablet for their 4 year old to play with at the restaurant. Daddy
reads his email while eating dinner. Mama checks Facebook and Pinterest as her
children talk eagerly about what happened at school that day. Kids are playing
Minecraft or texting their friends about weekend plans instead of helping
prepare dinner. Sometimes I long for simpler days…
Danny Huerta has some great practical tips to help families reconnect with each
other, especially at mealtime. However, first he explains that some people are
introverts and do not enjoy conversation as much as others. We have to be
sensitive to that fact. Parents should discuss this issue with their children,
no matter their age, before shoving the new “no-cell-phone” rule down their
throats.
Chick-Fil-A is rewarding patrons with a free ice cream cone if they
leave their cell phones in the “Cell Phone Coop” for the duration of their meal.
Danny suggests trying this same technique for a week, and as an incentive, your
family will be rewarded with a special dinner or other activity. During the week
at home, have a list of questions for your kids and have your kids ask you
questions, as well!
If you would like more information or if you need to talk to someone about
family-related issues, please call 1.800.A.FAMILY
EDITOR’S NOTE: One thing I have done with my children is print
a variety of “table games” and cut the activities into strips (i.e.: one
activity per strip of paper) and place them all in a bowl. Every night, someone
gets to choose a strip from the bowl; go around the table, taking turns,
discussing the game or activity. Usually, we are still laughing and talking
after we’ve eaten all our food! Examples of games: Name things that have your
favorite color in it – and not just one thing; keep it going the whole meal!
What is your dream vacation and describe it in detail – even little ones can
participate! Another great one: Everyone names a food, starting with the letter
A. The next night, you name foods starting with the letter B. There are 26
letters in the alphabet, so that’s 26 nights of fun! But here’s the kicker –
every time someone names a new food, they have to list all the foods previously
mentioned! You really have to listen closely to each other!
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December 3, 2015
Title: Sexting is Serious Problem
Topic: Sexting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
We had Captain Gary Spurger with the Harris County Sheriff’s Office on
the show on Wednesday, November 18, 2015 to talk about the legal consequences of
“sexting”. Even for a first offense, a teenager who is considered an
adult will be charged with a felony and must register as a sex offender for ten
years. This could ruin your child’s life. Christian parents shouldn’t assume
their kids are immune. Studies reveal that thirty percent of junior high and
high school aged students have shared at least one nude photo of themselves with
another teen. (This number is probably much higher.)
Danny Huerta is a counselor with Focus on the Family. The news has been
plastered with a sexting scandal story at a high school in a small Colorado
town. Hundreds of students were involved with taking and sharing nude photos of
themselves. Listen in as Danny shares more details about what has been happening
at this school.
“This is just the tip of the iceberg with what is happening in our schools
and in our nation,” Danny declares. Parents should stay vigilant,
periodically checking their teen’s cell phone for nude photos or inappropriate
websites they’ve visited. “Begin with a compassionate heart,” he says.
Don’t get mad. It might not be your child’s fault. Tune in to the next segment
with Danny as he continues to discuss this important topic.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Sexting is Serious Problem
Topic: Sexting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Parents, have you had the “cell phone talk” with your kids? It’s not
just about downloading music and texting too late at night anymore. The biggest
issue is sexting and your kids have either done it or know someone who has.
Danny Huerta believes it is important for parents to set boundaries and
limitations on their children’s cell phone use. Conflict will happen; your kids
will get upset when you want to check it. Don’t back down, though. “Teens
cannot demand freedom because that does not make a healthy life or a heathy
family,” Danny says.
If you do find something inappropriate on your teen’s cell phone do not delete
the image or text, but instead reassure him/her that you are not angry. However,
necessary steps must be taken to make sure no one was hurt and no illegal
activity occurred. This will include involving the school and the police. There
are harsh consequences that must be administered because this is not a joke or
something kids do to pass time. It is child pornography. In fact, according to
Captain Gary Spurger, it is child sexual assault.
One decision can ruin a life – or two or three or hundreds. The students in
Colorado are discovering the consequences of sexting right now. They didn’t
think it could happen to them. It was fun and made them feel important. But now
many are losing athletic and academic scholarships. The teens who are considered
adults face jail time and steep fines. Our children need to know just how
serious and dangerous sexting can be.
Go to the Focus on the Family website and search for “What Parents
Should know about Sexting” for more information.
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November 30, 2015
Title: Telling your Children the Bad News of the World
Topic: Bad Things Happen to Good People
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
“From the beginning of time, God has responded to evil by bringing His presence through the kindness of other people, through reconciliation, and through restoration,”
Danny Huerta, Focus on the Family.
It is hard to talk to our kids about bad things that happen in this world, whether it be terrorist attacks, war, death, or natural disasters. We shouldn’t shy away from the topic, though. Kids need to know that there is a loving, caring God that still holds His children in the palm of His hand. He cares for all His creation – even the “bad guys”.
Danny Huerta is a counselor with Focus on the Family. Regarding the Paris attacks and other events around the world, he says, “Parents must look at their own emotional state first before they share the news with their children. Sometimes they (parents) will overshare out of their own anxiety.” Listen in as Danny shares suggestions on how to share bad news with children depending on their age.
How are parents to approach events which happen close to home, though? Danny says, “Initially you want to listen and affirm that their anxiety is understandable. Let them talk through their feelings.” He goes on to explain that younger children will often “move forward” after they hear bad news from a different area of the country or the world. However, if the child witnesses a tragic accident or a loved ones dies, they might need more time to process the information.
If you would like more advice on how to talk to your kids about “bad things” or if your child is exhibiting emotional instability after a tragic event, please call Focus on the Family at 1.800.A.FAMILY to seek advice and help in your area.
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November 19, 2015
Title: Sexting is Serious Problem
Topic: Sexting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
We had Captain Gary Spurger with the Harris County Sheriff’s Office on
the show on Wednesday, November 18, 2015 to talk about the legal consequences of
“sexting”. Even for a first offense, a teenager who is considered an
adult will be charged with a felony and must register as a sex offender for ten
years. This could ruin your child’s life. Christian parents shouldn’t assume
their kids are immune. Studies reveal that thirty percent of junior high and
high school aged students have shared at least one nude photo of themselves with
another teen. (This number is probably much higher.)
Danny Huerta is a counselor with Focus on the Family. The news has been
plastered with a sexting scandal story at a high school in a small Colorado
town. Hundreds of students were involved with taking and sharing nude photos of
themselves. Listen in as Danny shares more details about what has been happening
at this school.
“This is just the tip of the iceberg with what is happening in our schools
and in our nation,” Danny declares. Parents should stay vigilant,
periodically checking their teen’s cell phone for nude photos or inappropriate
websites they’ve visited. “Begin with a compassionate heart,” he says.
Don’t get mad. It might not be your child’s fault. Tune in to the next segment
with Danny as he continues to discuss this important topic.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Sexting is Serious Problem
Topic: Sexting
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Parents, have you had the “cell phone talk” with your kids? It’s not
just about downloading music and texting too late at night anymore. The biggest
issue is sexting and your kids have either done it or know someone who has.
Danny Huerta believes it is important for parents to set boundaries and
limitations on their children’s cell phone use. Conflict will happen; your kids
will get upset when you want to check it. Don’t back down, though. “Teens
cannot demand freedom because that does not make a healthy life or a heathy
family,” Danny says.
If you do find something inappropriate on your teen’s cell phone do not delete
the image or text, but instead reassure him/her that you are not angry. However,
necessary steps must be taken to make sure no one was hurt and no illegal
activity occurred. This will include involving the school and the police. There
are harsh consequences that must be administered because this is not a joke or
something kids do to pass time. It is child pornography. In fact, according to
Captain Gary Spurger, it is child sexual assault.
One decision can ruin a life – or two or three or hundreds. The students in
Colorado are discovering the consequences of sexting right now. They didn’t
think it could happen to them. It was fun and made them feel important. But now
many are losing athletic and academic scholarships. The teens who are considered
adults face jail time and steep fines. Our children need to know just how
serious and dangerous sexting can be.
Go to the Focus on the Family website and search for “What Parents
Should know about Sexting” for more information.
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February 25, 2015
Title: Talking to your Kids about ISIS
Topic: ISIS
Discussed by Dr. Daniel Huerta
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
If your teen has a
Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram account, more than likely they’ve seen something
about ISIS. Maybe they’ve seen a disturbing video or photo about
the beheadings. They may have even read a story online about young girls who are
lured into leaving their families to join ISIS. Your young children might have
heard a news story on TV about the issue before you could quickly change the
channel.
It is not a topic we really want to discuss with our children, but we must. They
need to know the dangers. They need to know the truth about ISIS and what their
goals are.
Danny Huerta is a counselor with Focus on the Family. He says, “Young minds
are trying to grasp the fact that this is actually happening.” But how does
it relate to our children? Should we really tell them what it going on? Won’t it
just scare them?
Danny believes your child’s age, temperament, and personality are key to knowing
when and if your child is ready to discuss a topic like ISIS. Listen in as Danny
uses a personal story with his own nine-year-old daughter to explain how parents
and grandparents can broach the subject.
Danny also says it is important to note that the fear is natural, especially for
kids. It’s hard to turn off that anxiety. God tells us not to worry and not to
fear, though, and we must remind our kids (while reminding ourselves) that He is
in control.
Call the Focus on the Family Hotline at 1.800.A.FAMILY if you need to talk to
someone about this or any other issue or click [here].
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