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November 22, 2023
Title: Enjoy the People Around You
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Family get-togethers are great…but what happens when tempers flare? The holiday can be a total meltdown waiting to happen.
Erin Smalley, author, speaker, and Focus spokesperson, is here to offer tips for keeping your cool and being grateful for the people sitting around your table – even if crazy cousin Tom loses his temper or Great Aunt Sally falls asleep in the
Jell-O.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should we all try to just “bite our tongues”?
Before our gatherings, should we talk through “what if situations” with our spouse and children?
Remaining cool, calm, and collected is easier said than done. How is this achievable? Erin says it’s how your respond, not react, that can make or break a tough situation.
What are some ways we can break the ice with that difficult relative or friend?
Remember, this too shall pass. Maybe not soon enough, but it will pass. Make memories while you can. More importantly, love with the love of Jesus.
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November 17, 2022
Title: Healing After a Miscarriage
Topic: Healing After a Miscarriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Erin Smalley is the Strategic Marriage Spokesperson for Focus
on the Family’s marriage ministry. Today, Erin offers hope and encouragement for couples after a miscarriage and also discusses how we can help them, both individually and as a church congregation.
Click here for articles and resources from
Focus on the Family on miscarriage.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What are common struggles couples face after losing a baby from miscarriage?
Can their struggles be different? Erin explains that men and women grieve differently and it’s important to empathize with each other during the process.
What are some things NOT to say to a grieving couple after a miscarriage?
Is counseling helpful? Can books about grieving after a miscarriage be helpful?
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Healing After a Miscarriage
Topic: Healing After a Miscarriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What can couples do together and individually to begin the healing process? Erin
quotes
John 16:33 “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have
peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome
the world.”
Is it normal to be confused and ask “Why God”? Erin believes it is and
explains why...
How can the church be an encouragement to couples after a miscarriage? Is it
important for couples to reach out for help from the church?
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March 26, 2021
Title: Being a Godly Woman
Topic: Women’s Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Since 1987, March has been observed as National Women’s History
Month. But what does it mean to be a Godly Woman? What does a Godly woman look like?
Erin Smalley is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Strategic Marriage Spokesperson for the Focus on the Family’s marriage ministry. You can find more from Erin and FOF
here.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Why is it difficult for women to find their identity in our society today? Are women being bombarded with opinions and even lies?
Are women vital to society?
Girls as young as 4 years old are feeling the pressure of needing to be “beautiful” in order to fit into society. What makes a girl/woman beautiful, important, and valuable? Erin uses the analogy of a fake diamond to explain what beauty means.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Being a Godly Woman
Topic: Women’s Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should women today strive to be a Proverbs 31 woman? What does a Godly woman
look like?
What does it mean to be a Godly woman? Erin reminds us all, not just women, that
it is just as important to take care of yourself as it is to take care of
others. It’s not selfish. She says: “Giving from a place of emptiness is
never going to go well.”
How should men treat women?
Click
here to order your copy of Erin’s book: “10 Things a Husband Needs
from his Wife.”
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September 14, 2020
Title: Togetherness Stressing Marriages
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
When you said your vows, you probably did not turn to each other and
say: If we are locked up together for months at a time, we will fall to our
knees daily, lock hands, and pray for more patience and loving kindness towards
each other.
Erin Smalley serves as the Strategic Marriage Spokesperson for Focus on the
Family’s Marriage Ministry.
For more marriage help from Focus on the Family, click
here.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Can the husband-wife relationship be strained, almost to the breaking point,
because of the real co-habitation brought about because of the Coronavirus
quarantine?
Are men and women wired differently?
How can husbands and wives help each other navigate this difficult time? Erin
Smalley suggests: “Just ask them what they need!” Open communication is
key.
How can we all channel out the negativity we see and hear every day? Erin has
some great suggestions. Listen close!
How important is it for couples to pray together each day? FACT:
Couples who pray together have a less than 1% divorce rate. Pray with your
spouse!
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May 8, 2020
Title: Habits to Continue – and Give UP – after the Quarantine
Topic: Post Coronavirus
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
With many states reopening, it’s time to start shifting our mindset
and conversations.
Erin Smalley has some advice to share with couples as they transition back into
work and other life activities. Erin serves as the Strategic Marriage
Spokesperson with Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
It is going to be difficult for many to return to work/school/church after this
is all “over”. What habits have been created during quarantine that are
important to maintain?
How long does it take to form/break a habit?
What habits have been created during quarantine that are important to NOT
maintain? How do we make sure the bad habits don’t creep back into our daily
routine?
Should couples – and families – commit to less screen time (apart from work and
school)?
For FREE parenting/family/marital advice, call 1.800.A.FAMILY or click
here for more from Erin Smalley and her husband Greg.
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January 10, 2020
Title: Surviving “Divorce Day”
Topic: Divorce
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Today, Erin Smalley discusses “Divorce Day” – the first Monday after
Christmas when too many couples rush to divorce attorneys. This
sounds like a made-up thing, but it is actually a sad reality for many families.
Erin serves as the Strategic Marriage Spokesperson for Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do many couples work hard to simply make it through Christmas together for the
kid’s sake?
How does the divorce rate of Evangelical Christians compare to those outside the
church? Erin explains that this is a tricky question to answer…
How can males improve their marriage?
What can couples do if they are in a crisis marriage? Erin urges couples to
first talk to each other! Then get counseling. Listen for more advice…
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Surviving “Divorce Day”
Topic: Divorce
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are divorces expensive – both financially and emotionally?
Does divorce often create more problems?
Click
here or call 1-800-A-FAMILY for more information about Focus on
the Family’s marriage retreats and for free advice from a counselor.
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August 20, 2019
Title: Say Goodbye to Back to School Stress
Topic: Back To School Information
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
According to the
New York Times, the back to school season is the most
stressful time of the year for most parents – not just their kids.
Erin Smalley is a Clinical Psychologist, mom of four, and the Strategic Marriage
Spokesperson for Focus on the Family. Erin has some encouragement and advice for
parents today…
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Is the back to school season more stressful than Christmas?
How can we avoid being overwhelmed? Erin Smalley says it’s okay to ask for help!
We all need help from time to time, so don’t be shy about asking for it!
How can parents take positive action to better cope with our stress? How do we
keep our stress from boiling over onto our kids and our spouses?
What is the most stressful hour of the weekday for parents? What has helped Erin
and her family during this hour?
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August 27, 2018
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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July 2, 2018
Title: Family Vacations Can be FUN!
Topic: Family Activities
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Family vacations are supposed to be a time filled with joy and laughter, making wonderful memories and growing close as a family. However, the reality can be far from the ideal.
Erin Smalley serves as the Strategic Marriage Spokesperson for Focus on the Family’s marriage ministry, where she develops content for the marriage department.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are family vacations important?
Do family members expect – and even demand – different things from a vacation?
Are these expectations often unspoken? Should families have a “meeting” beforehand to discover what each member wants to do on vacation?
Can families please every member every minute during the family vacation? Nope! But Erin Smalley has suggestions on how to navigate these tough waters, such as where to eat.
Listen as Erin Smalley discusses an experience she and her family had on vacation one time. She also urges families to take time to have vacations…
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April 13, 2018
Title: Dividing Household Responsibilities
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Marriage is tough. Couples have disagreements over many issues. One of those disagreements, though, should not concern household responsibilities.
Focus on the Family spokesperson and marriage counselor, Erin Smalley, has some advice and suggestions I’m sure we could all use.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Is there always room for compromise when it comes to dividing the household responsibilities?
Are you the same husband/wife that you were when you first got married?
What is a “safe zone”?
Have people/groups conducted research studies on what happens within a marriage when a man starts helping more with the dishes? What about the laundry or cleaning toilets? Was there a difference?
Is teamwork important in a marriage?
Should men observe more and ask less?
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Dividing Household Responsibilities
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
How long have Erin and her husband, Greg, been married?
Do Erin and Greg still experience tension concerning this issue from time to
time?
Should both partners be flexible?
Instead of responding “I’ll do it in a minute”, is a better comment: “Can
it wait a few minutes until I finish this project?” Why and how can this
change make such a difference?
Do husbands “help” their wives? Or, is it a shared responsibility?
Listen as Erin shares the story of how and why her husband began making the bed
every morning. It’s so sweet!
How can a change of attitude toward household responsibilities affect children in the home?
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January 3, 2018
Title: Do you Choose Your Child’s Friends?
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Before babies even learn to crawl, they often find themselves attending playdates and outings with other babies. Toddlers learn how to get along with others, parents get adult interaction, and everyone wins. But what happens when the playdate mindset continues well into the teenage years?
Erin Smalley is a mom of four and the author of “Grown-Up Girlfriends”. Today, Erin will explain why parents “friendgineer” and help moms and dads discern when to intervene in a child’s social circle and when to back off.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is a playdate? Are playdates for little ones okay?
Are teens mature enough to choose their own friends? Erin believes it depends on the teen. Listen as she and Terry discuss certain situations.
If parents are with their teens at gatherings, is that considered hovering?
Erin also discusses the importance of giving your teen an “out”…If they are at a party and don’t feel comfortable, do they trust you enough to not freak out?
When should parents stop organizing playdates for their kids?
Best advice: Pray, pray, pray for your kids – no matter how old they are.
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July 14, 2017
Title: When Date Night Gets Cut Short
Topic: Marriage and the Family
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Finally a night out on the town with your spouse. You both smile at each other,
nearly giddy to have a moment to yourselves without the kids. As you dig into
your beautifully crafted restaurant meal, mentally listing all the exciting
things that you've been dying to tell each other, your cell phone begins
buzzing. You take a deep breath as you glance at the phone: it's the babysitter.
What do you do next? Listen as Erin Smalley, with Focus on the Family, shares
some thoughts and helpful hints.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Are Date Nights imperative for couples of all ages?
When the phone rings and it’s the babysitter with a situation they cannot handle
or diffuse, what should parents do?
Sometimes Date Night is a camp out in the back yard or on the couch after the
kids go to bed. What should the rules be in this scenario?
Can couples maintain strong relationships during the early stages of their kids'
lives without Date Night?
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June 26, 2017
Title: Kids Occupied Every Minute
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Don’t let summer get you down. Erin Smalley has some great advice and suggestions for you! Erin is the Program Manager of Marriage Ministries at
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should parents feel compelled to keep their kids occupied every minute of every day during the summer?
Is it a good idea to keep learning throughout the summer?
Should mom be given some “mom time” occasionally?
Should dad take time for himself, too?
Is it important for mom and dad to have time alone together?
For more tips and suggestions on summer activities, click
here.
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May 30, 2017
Title: Kids Occupied Every Minute
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Don’t let summer get you down. Erin Smalley has some great advice and suggestions for you! Erin is the Program Manager of Marriage Ministries at
Focus on the Family.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should parents feel compelled to keep their kids occupied every minute of every day during the summer?
Is it a good idea to keep learning throughout the summer?
Should mom be given some “mom time” occasionally?
Should dad take time for himself, too?
Is it important for mom and dad to have time alone together?
For more tips and suggestions on summer activities, click
here.
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May 10, 2017
Title: Do you Choose Your Child’s Friends?
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Before babies even learn to crawl, they often find themselves attending playdates and outings with other babies. Toddlers learn how to get along with others, parents get adult interaction, and everyone wins. But what happens when the playdate mindset continues well into the teenage years?
Erin Smalley is a mom of four and the author of “Grown-Up Girlfriends”. Today, Erin will explain why parents “friendgineer” and help moms and dads discern when to intervene in a child’s social circle and when to back off.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is a playdate? Are playdates for little ones okay?
Are teens mature enough to choose their own friends? Erin believes it depends on the teen. Listen as she and Terry discuss certain situations.
If parents are with their teens at gatherings, is that considered hovering?
Erin also discusses the importance of giving your teen an “out”…If they are at a party and don’t feel comfortable, do they trust you enough to not freak out?
When should parents stop organizing playdates for their kids?
Best advice: Pray, pray, pray for your kids – no matter how old they are.
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April 28, 2017
Title: National Kissing Day
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Kissing is a powerful way to communicate affection. Studies show that a man who is kissed by his wife before heading out the door in the morning is more likely to make a larger income, is less likely to get into a car accident, and has many more benefits than those who aren’t kissed.
Erin Smalley discusses National Kissing Day – TODAY, April 28th!
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Is kissing important to your spouse?
Should you kiss in front of your kids?
Does kissing your spouse increase life expectancy?
Why is a goodbye kiss important? Are “hello” kisses just as important?
Is hugging important as well?
Celebrate National Kissing Day TODAY April 28th!
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April 10, 2017
Title: Why Feminists Hate Stay at Home Moms
Topic: Stay-At-Home Moms
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
In 1976, the French feminist icon Simone de Beauvoir said, “No
woman should be authorized to stay home to raise her children. Women should not
have that choice, because if there is such a choice, too many women will make
that one.”
Erin Smalley, host of The Boundless Show, believes too many people, specifically women, have fallen for this lie from main-stream feminists.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Trick Question: Should it be illegal for moms to stay at home with their children?
Why is there so much animosity among women concerning this issue? Listen as Erin Smalley discusses the importance of women supporting each other, especially in church settings.
How does Erin Smalley describe the Proverbs 31 Woman?
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Why Feminists Hate Stay at Home Moms
Topic: Stay-At-Home Moms
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Marriage is difficult in and by itself, but when you add in kids to the mix, it
becomes even more complicated. What advice does Erin Smalley have for couples
who desire to have only one income while the other parent stays home?
Is it important for kids to support their parents as they make these tough
decisions?
According to Pew Research Center, approximately thirty percent of
married mothers with children at home are not employed. Of the remaining 70
percent who are employed, at least half of those mothers work part-time or fewer
hours than their husbands do. Listen as Erin Smalley discusses these statistics,
how they affect the family dynamics, and how parents can resolve disputes
concerning work and money.
Erin encourages couples to call 1.800.A.FAMILY if you would like FREE advice
from a licensed counselor.
You can read the article that sparked this discussion
here.
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March 22, 2017
Title: Do you Choose Your Child’s Friends?
Topic: Family Issues
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Before babies even learn to crawl, they often find themselves attending playdates and outings with other babies. Toddlers learn how to get along with others, parents get adult interaction, and everyone wins. But what happens when the playdate mindset continues well into the teenage years?
Erin Smalley is a mom of four and the author of “Grown-Up Girlfriends”. Today, Erin will explain why parents “friendgineer” and help moms and dads discern when to intervene in a child’s social circle and when to back off.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
What is a playdate? Are playdates for little ones okay?
Are teens mature enough to choose their own friends? Erin believes it depends on the teen. Listen as she and Terry discuss certain situations.
If parents are with their teens at gatherings, is that considered hovering?
Erin also discusses the importance of giving your teen an “out”…If they are at a party and don’t feel comfortable, do they trust you enough to not freak out?
When should parents stop organizing playdates for their kids?
Best advice: Pray, pray, pray for your kids – no matter how old they are.
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February 6, 2017
Title: 10 Things Every Husband Needs from His Wife
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Erin Smalley is a wife, mother, author, and speaker. She serves as the Marriage Strategic Spokesperson for Focus on the Family. Today she will be sharing practical ways every woman can show her husband love – not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day of the year.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Proverbs 14:1 “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.”
What do husbands “really” want for Valentine’s Day? What do they “really” want every day?
Erin Smalley is currently writing a new book: “10 Things Every Husband Needs from His Wife”. What are some of the topics discussed?
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - 10 Things Every Husband Needs from His Wife
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Do men too often receive condemnation instead of congratulations?
Listen as Erin Smalley explains why this is so very important to preserve your
marriage.
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December 15, 2016
Title: Enjoy the People Around You
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Family get-togethers are great…but what happens when tempers flare? The holiday can be a total meltdown waiting to happen.
Erin Smalley, author, speaker, and Focus spokesperson, is here to offer tips for keeping your cool and being grateful for the people sitting around your table – even if crazy cousin Tom loses his temper or Great Aunt Sally falls asleep in the
Jell-O.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should we all try to just “bite our tongues”?
Before our gatherings, should we talk through “what if situations” with our spouse and children?
Remaining cool, calm, and collected is easier said than done. How is this achievable? Erin says it’s how your respond, not react, that can make or break a tough situation.
What are some ways we can break the ice with that difficult relative or friend?
Remember, this too shall pass. Maybe not soon enough, but it will pass. Make memories while you can. More importantly, love with the love of Jesus.
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Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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Title: Mommy Wars
Topic: Mommy Wars
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
A liberal blogger’s
opinion piece, “Being
a Stay-at-Home Mother Is Not a Job,” recently went
viral, reigniting the “mommy wars” debate between moms in the workforce and
stay-at-home moms. Erin Smalley, Family Ministries Program Manager
at Focus on the Family, says, “Divisive messages about motherhood
impact real moms and the culture as a whole.” Being a stay-at-home mom is most
certainly a “job” – it’s a privilege and an honor.
Erin goes on to say that oftentimes it is not a “choice” for moms or dads to
work; they have to in order to provide for their families. Others must stay at
home for reasons that are not always apparent. But we do all have something in
common: We love our kids. “We have a heart to create a certain world for our
kids and to raise them in a Godly way”. Being a parent is a tough job. We
don’t need to “judge” each other simply because one works and one doesn’t. “It’s
all very overwhelming,” Erin says.
Find more on this and other issues affecting the family [here].
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November 25, 2016
Title: Enjoy the People Around You
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Family get-togethers are great…but what happens when tempers flare? The holiday can be a total meltdown waiting to happen.
Erin Smalley, author, speaker, and Focus spokesperson, is here to offer tips for keeping your cool and being grateful for the people sitting around your table – even if crazy cousin Tom loses his temper or Great Aunt Sally falls asleep in the
Jell-O.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should we all try to just “bite our tongues”?
Before our gatherings, should we talk through “what if situations” with our spouse and children?
Remaining cool, calm, and collected is easier said than done. How is this achievable? Erin says it’s how your respond, not react, that can make or break a tough situation.
What are some ways we can break the ice with that difficult relative or friend?
Remember, this too shall pass. Maybe not soon enough, but it will pass. Make memories while you can. More importantly, love with the love of Jesus.
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November 24, 2016
Title: Enjoy the People Around You
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Family get-togethers are great…but what happens when tempers flare? The holiday can be a total meltdown waiting to happen.
Erin Smalley, author, speaker, and Focus spokesperson, is here to offer tips for keeping your cool and being grateful for the people sitting around your table – even if crazy cousin Tom loses his temper or Great Aunt Sally falls asleep in the
Jell-O.
Questions/Issues Discussed:
Should we all try to just “bite our tongues”?
Before our gatherings, should we talk through “what if situations” with our spouse and children?
Remaining cool, calm, and collected is easier said than done. How is this achievable? Erin says it’s how your respond, not react, that can make or break a tough situation.
What are some ways we can break the ice with that difficult relative or friend?
Remember, this too shall pass. Maybe not soon enough, but it will pass. Make memories while you can. More importantly, love with the love of Jesus.
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October 10, 2016
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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September 23, 2016
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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December 31, 2015
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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December 9, 2015
Title: Mommy Wars
Topic: Mommy Wars
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
A liberal blogger’s
opinion piece, “Being
a Stay-at-Home Mother Is Not a Job,” recently went
viral, reigniting the “mommy wars” debate between moms in the workforce and
stay-at-home moms. Erin Smalley, Family Ministries Program Manager
at Focus on the Family, says, “Divisive messages about motherhood
impact real moms and the culture as a whole.” Being a stay-at-home mom is most
certainly a “job” – it’s a privilege and an honor.
Erin goes on to say that oftentimes it is not a “choice” for moms or dads to
work; they have to in order to provide for their families. Others must stay at
home for reasons that are not always apparent. But we do all have something in
common: We love our kids. “We have a heart to create a certain world for our
kids and to raise them in a Godly way”. Being a parent is a tough job. We
don’t need to “judge” each other simply because one works and one doesn’t. “It’s
all very overwhelming,” Erin says.
Find more on this and other issues affecting the family [here].
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December 4, 2015
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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October 20, 2015
Title: When Family Dinnertime is Lousy
Topic: Family Dinner Time
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Weeknight dinners can often be hectic and stressful. It is so easy to just grab something from a drive-thru and eat in the car to this practice on your way to another practice. However, no matter how busy you are, it is important to have a sit-down dinner with your family at least three (if not five!) days a week.
Erin Smalley serves as the Program Manager for Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry and develops content for their marriage department. Erin discusses how studies prove that children and teens who regularly eat dinner with their family are less likely to experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex. They also perform better at school and have less run-ins with the law. She adds that this is perfect time to reconnect with one another and just laugh and have fun.
But what happens when mom feels stressed to the max while preparing dinner? After all, there is homework to be done, activities to go to, fighting among the kids, dad is running late due to traffic. Mom has had a hard day, whether at work or home. Let’s face it: It is stressful.
Erin gives some great advice to moms and dads on how to reduce the stress level before, during, and after dinnertime. Not only are family dinners great for the kids, remember that they are also beneficial to the parents! She also encourages parents to include teenagers and college students who still live at home to join family meal time. Your teen might not act like its “cool”, but deep down, they value this family time, too. “It teaches them to value the family,” Erin says.
Remember: Your family meal time doesn’t necessarily need to be at dinner time. If mornings aren’t as hectic, make that your special time. If weekends are the only time your family members are free without busy schedules, do it then! Not every family fits into the “family dinnertime” routine. Do what is best for you! But always – always – make your kids the priority.
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August 18, 2015
Title: Miscarriage: You’re not Alone in Your Loss
Topic: Miscarriage Information
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children.
Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
If you have ever experienced a miscarriage, my heart goes out to you. You most
definitely have my sincerest sympathy. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you
suffered. This segment with Erin Smalley reveals that you are not alone. There
are nearly 1 million miscarriages every year in the United States, yet many
people think that they are uncommon. About forty percent of these women, and
even their husbands, suffer from depression after a miscarriage.
Just about every church offers grief counseling for members who lose a loved
one, but many are unprepared when one suffers a miscarriage. Erin encourages
pastors and leaders to train at least one staff person for situations such as
this. Erin points out that there are plenty of support groups and organizations
that are fully equipped to help and care for women and men who find themselves
with empty arms when their hearts were once so full.
People who have never experienced a miscarriage just don’t understand the pain.
They don’t intend on being insensitive, but certain things they say or do can be
really upsetting. Offering a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to their
grief is the best thing you can do. Listen in as Erin Smalley gives some advice
to family and friends of those hurting after a miscarriage.
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May 26, 2015
Title: The IKEA Meltdown
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
You have vowed to love, honor, and cherish your spouse through sickness and health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, until death do you part. But, you never promised to put furniture together from IKEA! Erin Smalley is a clinical psychologist with Focus on the Family. She explains the “IKEA Meltdown”.
We are all on our best behavior when we’re dating and engaged. We don’t want to show our “bad side” to our significant other. Then we get married and go to pick out new furniture that must be assembled. Erin says it’s not really about the “furniture” though; it’s about the messages we send each other and how we handle the situation. “It’s important to look beyond the furniture to what is really going on in your relationship,” Erin says.
Once you realize that you are really on the same team, things go much more smoothly. Honoring and respecting each other are just as vital as communication and love. Click [here] for more from Erin Smalley and Focus on the Family.
You can order a copy of Erin’s book, co-written with her husband Greg, on [Amazon].
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Title: Mommy Wars
Topic: Mommy Wars
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
A liberal blogger’s
opinion piece, “Being
a Stay-at-Home Mother Is Not a Job,” recently went
viral, reigniting the “mommy wars” debate between moms in the workforce and
stay-at-home moms. Erin Smalley, Family Ministries Program Manager
at Focus on the Family, says, “Divisive messages about motherhood
impact real moms and the culture as a whole.” Being a stay-at-home mom is most
certainly a “job” – it’s a privilege and an honor.
Erin goes on to say that oftentimes it is not a “choice” for moms or dads to
work; they have to in order to provide for their families. Others must stay at
home for reasons that are not always apparent. But we do all have something in
common: We love our kids. “We have a heart to create a certain world for our
kids and to raise them in a Godly way”. Being a parent is a tough job. We
don’t need to “judge” each other simply because one works and one doesn’t. “It’s
all very overwhelming,” Erin says.
Find more on this and other issues affecting the family [here].
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March 27, 2015
Title: Mommy Wars
Topic: Mommy Wars
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
A liberal blogger’s
opinion piece, “Being
a Stay-at-Home Mother Is Not a Job,” recently went
viral, reigniting the “mommy wars” debate between moms in the workforce and
stay-at-home moms. Erin Smalley, Family Ministries Program Manager
at Focus on the Family, says, “Divisive messages about motherhood
impact real moms and the culture as a whole.” Being a stay-at-home mom is most
certainly a “job” – it’s a privilege and an honor.
Erin goes on to say that oftentimes it is not a “choice” for moms or dads to
work; they have to in order to provide for their families. Others must stay at
home for reasons that are not always apparent. But we do all have something in
common: We love our kids. “We have a heart to create a certain world for our
kids and to raise them in a Godly way”. Being a parent is a tough job. We
don’t need to “judge” each other simply because one works and one doesn’t. “It’s
all very overwhelming,” Erin says.
Find more on this and other issues affecting the family [here].
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December 12, 2014
Title: Surviving the Holidays
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Family traditions are important to everyone no matter how “weird” they may
seem to outsiders. Most families have traditions, especially at Christmastime.
Some are “normal” traditions, like eating ham on Christmas Eve. Some go caroling
with their neighbors. Some may play games or open presents the day after
Christmas. Others may seem strange, like matching outfits for an awkward family
photo or eating gumbo instead of ham!
No matter what “your” tradition may be, however, when you start a new family or
have a blended family, sometimes those traditions cause big headaches – and even
heartaches. Erin Smalley, with Focus on the Family’s Marriage Ministry, says
it’s great to keep the old traditions going, but it’s just as important to form
new ones.
Also discussed in this segment is the emotional aspect of holidays. Some have
had a spouse or parent pass away this year; some may have gotten divorced and
won’t have their children with them on Christmas Day. This can be a very
difficult time instead of a joyous occasion. Don’t be afraid to talk about those
feelings, especially with children. Erin says the best chance of decreasing
conflict in these types of situations is to plan ahead and be flexible. Listen
in to the next segment for more tips and advice on how to survive the holidays.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Surviving the Holidays
Topic: Surviving the Holidays
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Change is hard. Most people have
a hard time with change. Many times, the holidays are the hardest time to
experience change.
Grandparents – be flexible with baby and toddler naptimes. Parents – make sure
you communicate specific needs in advance with everyone involved. Kids – now is
the best time to practice your manners and be on your best behavior! (That’s my
own advice!)
As Christians, we want to celebrate the real reason for Christmastime. But how
do we share our faith if a family member is an unbeliever? We certainly don’t
want to add more stress or tension to this joyous time, but we do want to share
the Love of God with our family. Erin has some great non-threatening tips for
this as well!
Interesting Christmas Fact: In 1607, Christmas was celebrated for the first time
in America in Jamestown, VA.
Log on to www.Family.org for more on this and other issues families struggle
with.
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Title: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking.
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
We want the occasions to be "perfect" and we want all our dreams—of
connection, harmony, joy and bliss—to come true. Sometimes, though, we remember
Christmases past.
Memories of past get-togethers come flooding back.
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
For
comforting words, listen in.
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Title: part 2 of 3
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
We get to choose our
friends or the people we spend time with based on common values, interests,
beliefs, personalities, politics, etc. We didn’t get to pick our
family; thus we may see life very differently.
Before family and friends arrive for the holidays, spend time with those you
live with every day. Discuss who is coming, and make plans on handling conflict
before it arrives. Plan ahead for ‘escape’ zones: just a few chairs on the
patio, statements like: Please excuse me for a moment; and I need a bathroom
break…remove yourself for a moment…
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
For comforting words, listen in.
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Title: Part 3 of 3
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Make your goal to be a servant.
“Even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve...” (Matthew 20:28);
“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched...” (Proverbs 11:25); “The greatest
among you shall be your servant.” (Matthew 23:11)
In our home, the men do the dishes after the celebration meal.
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
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December 16, 2013
Title: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking.
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
We want the occasions to be "perfect" and we want all our dreams—of
connection, harmony, joy and bliss—to come true. Sometimes, though, we remember
Christmases past.
Memories of past get-togethers come flooding back.
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
For
comforting words, listen in.
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Title: part 2 of 3
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
We get to choose our
friends or the people we spend time with based on common values, interests,
beliefs, personalities, politics, etc. We didn’t get to pick our
family; thus we may see life very differently.
Before family and friends arrive for the holidays, spend time with those you
live with every day. Discuss who is coming, and make plans on handling conflict
before it arrives. Plan ahead for ‘escape’ zones: just a few chairs on the
patio, statements like: Please excuse me for a moment; and I need a bathroom
break…remove yourself for a moment…
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
For comforting words, listen in.
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Title: Part 3 of 3
Topic: Holiday Gatherings Can Be Nerve Racking
Discussed by Erin Smalley
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Make your goal to be a servant.
“Even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve...” (Matthew 20:28);
“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched...” (Proverbs 11:25); “The greatest
among you shall be your servant.” (Matthew 23:11)
In our home, the men do the dishes after the celebration meal.
Erin Smalley helps us today to plan for the good times as well as the ‘rough
moments’ that will happen in most homes during the upcoming holidays.
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