Search Results
To Listen to Audio click the Play Button [beneath each segment] which varies based on the browser you are using.
December 26, 2016
Title: Focusing on Healing
Topic: Hope and Healing in a Broken World
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Marriage a tough work. Dr. Jared Pingleton is a Clinical Psychologist and the Director of Counseling Services at
Focus on the Family. Every month, FOTF receives more calls on their FREE hotline (800.A.FAMILY) concerning marriage and family than any other issue. They also help connect people with a licensed counselor who they’ve interviewed and trust.
Everyone has pain and heartache. Christians are definitely not immune. Dr. Pingleton says, “The shame and stigma is finally starting to dissipate to where people can reach out…They are positively receptive to the resources (we offer).” Listen in as Dr. Pingleton also discusses how they have partnered with the
National Institute of Marriage in Branson, MS. You can find more information on this great opportunity to help save your marriage on FOTF’s website.
It sounds cliché, but Dr. Pingleton says every Christian household’s slogan should be: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” He urges all families to pray together daily, especially husbands and wives. “It’s really hard to pray with someone you’re mad at,” he point out.
Finally, Dr. Pingleton discusses the divorce rate in the Evangelical Christians. “A lot of people say they are Christians on surveys, but are really just ‘consensual Christians’ not ‘committed Christians’. That’s when the numbers change,” he explains.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 2 - Focusing on Healing
Topic: Hope and Healing in a Broken World
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Another mass shooting occurred on Thursday, October 1, 2015, in America. It has
been alleged that the gunman asked his victims if they were Christians before
shooting them. People are still reeling from this. People everywhere are
confused and hurting. You are probably one of those hurting people.
Dr. Jared Pingleton doesn’t believe changing policies will stop mass murders
like this. We need to understand that this type of person is deranged and almost
nothing will stop them from harming others. However, he does point that, while
we need to be aware of the issues, we shouldn’t live in a state of fear.
“Prevention is always better than cure,” he says. We need to reach out
to people who are hurting and get them the help they need, whether it is in the
form of counseling, drug or alcohol rehabilitation, or praying with them and
leading them to Christ.
Family members, especially, should be on the lookout for sudden, strange
behavior in their loved ones. Do they have a new-found obsession with guns? Are
they watching violent movies or playing murderous video games? Has their
attitude changed? What are they posting on social media? These are all red-flags
that we should look out for.
Dr. Pingleton urges anyone with a concern about a loved one or friend to call
their hotline at 800.A.FAMILY to discuss the situation with a licensed
counselor. “It’s easy to avoid and ignore them,” he says. But we can’t
ignore it. We must not ignore it. We must be aware and intervene. You just might
save a life.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
October 30, 2015
Title: Making your Marriage Magnificent
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 3
Marriage is tough; it is not for the weak and weary.
The odds are definitely stacked against couples. In a world where marriages are
falling to pieces all around us, how does your marriage measure up?
Dr. Jared Pingleton is the Director of Counseling Services at Focus on the
Family. “Marriage is a life-long covenant,” Dr. Pingleton says. “Yet,
we are not taught by Hollywood and Hallmark that it is.”
In his book, “Making
Magnificent Marriages” Dr. Pingleton has a section entitled “Leaving,
Weaving, and Cleaving”. Moses, Paul, and Jesus were the only three figures
in the Bible who said the same thing: Love God fully and love your neighbor as
yourself. But, how does this tie into marriage? Listen in as Dr. Pingleton
explains.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 3 - Making your Marriage Magnificent
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Nobody walks back down the aisle after getting married, flipping a
coin, saying “Well, it’s a 50/50 chance”.
Dr. Jared Pingleton encourages every couple, especially those with rocky
marriages, to take an “inventory” of where they invest their time. Are
you really spending enough time with your spouse? He designed his book “Making
Magnificent Marriages” for this very purpose. Each chapter includes Bible
studies, three questions for each individual to answer separately, and questions
to be discussed together. This layout also makes the book ideal for groups of
couples to study together.
“We all have 168 hours every week,” Dr. Pingleton says. “How we
choose to allocate that resource is much more important than any other resource
we have.” If you waste an hour, you can never get that back. He
suggests that couples go back to courtship or dating. When you first met your
significant other you wanted to spend as much time together as possible. What
happened to that desire? Bring it back!
Do you spend more time working out or shopping or watching TV than you do with
your spouse? Are you and your spouse attending church together? More
importantly, are you praying for and with each other?
Dr. Pingleton also discusses the differences between a contract and a covenant.
Marriage is not just a piece of paper. Marriage is integrity and not dependent
upon empty promises. Marriage is setting goals and actually achieving them. “If
we sow good seeds into a marriage, we are going to reap the rewards. If we sow
lovingly, we are going to reap lovingly.” Dr. Pingleton says.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 3 of 3 - Making your Marriage Magnificent
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
If you are contemplating divorce, Dr. Pingleton
encourages you to call Focus on the Family at 1.800.A.FAMILY to speak
to a licensed counselor free of charge. There is hope and healing waiting for
you in the arms of Jesus.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
October 5, 2015
Title: Focusing on Healing
Topic: Hope and Healing in a Broken World
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Marriage a tough work. Dr. Jared Pingleton is a Clinical Psychologist and the Director of Counseling Services at
Focus on the Family. Every month, FOTF receives more calls on their FREE hotline (800.A.FAMILY) concerning marriage and family than any other issue. They also help connect people with a licensed counselor who they’ve interviewed and trust.
Everyone has pain and heartache. Christians are definitely not immune. Dr. Pingleton says, “The shame and stigma is finally starting to dissipate to where people can reach out…They are positively receptive to the resources (we offer).” Listen in as Dr. Pingleton also discusses how they have partnered with the
National Institute of Marriage in Branson, MS. You can find more information on this great opportunity to help save your marriage on FOTF’s website.
It sounds cliché, but Dr. Pingleton says every Christian household’s slogan should be: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” He urges all families to pray together daily, especially husbands and wives. “It’s really hard to pray with someone you’re mad at,” he point out.
Finally, Dr. Pingleton discusses the divorce rate in the Evangelical Christians. “A lot of people say they are Christians on surveys, but are really just ‘consensual Christians’ not ‘committed Christians’. That’s when the numbers change,” he explains.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 2 - Focusing on Healing
Topic: Hope and Healing in a Broken World
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young
children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to
understand.
Another mass shooting occurred on Thursday, October 1, 2015, in America. It has
been alleged that the gunman asked his victims if they were Christians before
shooting them. People are still reeling from this. People everywhere are
confused and hurting. You are probably one of those hurting people.
Dr. Jared Pingleton doesn’t believe changing policies will stop mass murders
like this. We need to understand that this type of person is deranged and almost
nothing will stop them from harming others. However, he does point that, while
we need to be aware of the issues, we shouldn’t live in a state of fear.
“Prevention is always better than cure,” he says. We need to reach out
to people who are hurting and get them the help they need, whether it is in the
form of counseling, drug or alcohol rehabilitation, or praying with them and
leading them to Christ.
Family members, especially, should be on the lookout for sudden, strange
behavior in their loved ones. Do they have a new-found obsession with guns? Are
they watching violent movies or playing murderous video games? Has their
attitude changed? What are they posting on social media? These are all red-flags
that we should look out for.
Dr. Pingleton urges anyone with a concern about a loved one or friend to call
their hotline at 800.A.FAMILY to discuss the situation with a licensed
counselor. “It’s easy to avoid and ignore them,” he says. But we can’t
ignore it. We must not ignore it. We must be aware and intervene. You just might
save a life.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
September 1, 2015
Title: What you Need to know about Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Topic: Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children.
Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
Over the past two weeks, the news has been filled with stories, speculation, and
commentary about Josh Duggar, the eldest child of the famed reality-TV family,
who confirmed allegations that he molested young girls as a teenager.
Although the Duggar controversy has brought molestation to the forefront, sexual
abuse is sadly more common than most people think. The Center for Disease
Control (CDC) estimates that approximately 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls are
sexually abused before they turn 18.
As parents react to these news stories and statistics, they find themselves
asking important questions. Dr. Jared Pingleton is a Clinical Psychologist and
Director of Counseling Services at Focus on the Family. If you have questions or
concerns about this topic, please listen in.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 2 - What you Need to know about Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Topic: Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children.
Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
In this second segment with Dr. Pingleton, he continues to answer some of the
tough questions parents may have concerning molestation and sexual abuse. What
are the signs? Is there a certain “type” of abuser – a friend or close relative
of the family? What should I do if my child is being abused? What if my child
tells me he/she is being abused?
What if my child is the abuser?
If you or someone you know has been or is being molested or sexually abused,
please please, please call Focus on the Family for help 1-800-A-FAMILY or click
[here] for help.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
June 29, 2015
Title: Is Any Marriage Safe Anymore?
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Tullian Tchividjian, the grandson of Evangelical Preacher Billy Graham,
recently resigned his position as minster of the megachurch Coral Ridge
Presbyterian Church due to the allegation that he had an extramarital affair.
He
has not denied this revelation. Tullian is not alone; high-profile people have
been struggling with the issue of adultery since Biblical times. Does King David
ring a bell?
Dr. Jared Pingleton, the Director of Counseling Services at
Focus on the Family, offers help and hope to couples who are struggling in their
marriage, specifically when adultery is involved. While there is some
controversy concerning the divorce rate among Christians compared to
non-Christians, one fact remains constant: Those who are more grounded in their
faith and attend church together are less likely to divorce.
Dr. Pingleton discusses some risk factors when it comes to adultery for
everyone, not just Christian leaders. First, couples need to keep dating each
other. Never quit trying to impress your spouse. Always do your best to make
them feel their best.
Dr. Pingleton shares a creative way to double date – or even triple date! – with
other couples from church to make it easier – and cheaper! – to spend time with
your spouse! He also compares navigating married life to a training Olympic
athlete and a bank account. How? Listen in as he explains.
In the next segment, Dr. Pingleton continues with more risk factors for adultery
and signs to look for.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 2 - Is Any Marriage Safe Anymore?
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Your integrity is on
the line. Guard it. Keep it. No one can take it away without your permission.
There’s an old saying that goes: “The journey of a thousand miles begins with
the first step.” Dr. Pingleton uses this and Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else,
guard your heart” to explain this. Adultery begins within, not with someone
else. If you find yourself constantly thinking about a co-worker, for example,
you need to examine yourself; possibly even seek outside help to stop those
feelings of attraction before you act on them.
Also, don’t ever share dissatisfactions about your spouse with a person of the
opposite sex. This oftentimes starts an emotional affair, which leads to lying
about your whereabouts. This is a big red flag! Stop doing it! If you don’t, the
sexual affair will begin soon enough.
“Marriage requires ongoing maintenance,” Dr. Pingleton says. Couples should
place “practical boundaries” on their marriage. The most important boundary is
to never be alone with a person of the opposite sex. Avoid even the appearance
of evil and run from temptation. This and other marriage solutions can be found
in Dr. Pingleton’s book, “Making Magnificent Marriages”.
If your marriage is need of a reboot, Dr. Pingleton also suggests an oldie, but
a goodie: the book “His Needs. Her Needs.”
This book is a great tool in “affair-proofing” your marriage.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
June 10, 2015
Title: What you Need to know about Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Topic: Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Part 1 of 2
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children.
Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
Over the past two weeks, the news has been filled with stories, speculation, and
commentary about Josh Duggar, the eldest child of the famed reality-TV family,
who confirmed allegations that he molested young girls as a teenager.
Although the Duggar controversy has brought molestation to the forefront, sexual
abuse is sadly more common than most people think. The Center for Disease
Control (CDC) estimates that approximately 1 in 6 boys and 1 in 4 girls are
sexually abused before they turn 18.
As parents react to these news stories and statistics, they find themselves
asking important questions. Dr. Jared Pingleton is a Clinical Psychologist and
Director of Counseling Services at Focus on the Family. If you have questions or
concerns about this topic, please listen in.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
Title: Part 2 of 2 - What you Need to know about Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Topic: Molestation and Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children.
Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
In this second segment with Dr. Pingleton, he continues to answer some of the
tough questions parents may have concerning molestation and sexual abuse. What
are the signs? Is there a certain “type” of abuser – a friend or close relative
of the family? What should I do if my child is being abused? What if my child
tells me he/she is being abused?
What if my child is the abuser?
If you or someone you know has been or is being molested or sexually abused,
please please, please call Focus on the Family for help 1-800-A-FAMILY or click
[here] for help.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
June 1, 2015
Title: Military Family Units are Struggling
Topic: Marriage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
Since 2001, more
than 2 million American children have had a parent deployed at least once, and
37% of those kids “seriously worry” about their deployed mom or dad.
Dr. Jared Pingleton discusses just how difficult it is for spouses and children
when their husband/wife or parent are not there, possibly even in harm’s way.
Dr. Pingleton says it is important for neighbors or church members to adopt a
military family. This is a great way to extend the hand of God to people in need
of not only financial support but a lending ear. People can even help with
babysitting or homework, too. Everything helps; please do not hesitate to reach
out, no matter what you can do.
Dr. Pingleton also discusses just how bad PTSD is among military members. Many
people do not realize that the VA waiting time for an evaluation with a
therapist can be up to 18 months! Many times, that appointment comes too late
for men and women and their families.
If you or someone you know is in need of encouragement or help, please call
Focus on the Family at 800.A.FAMILY or click [here].
There is help out there. Don’t be afraid to ask for it.
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization
March 9, 2015
Title: Be Honest: Do you have Road Rage?
Topic: Road Rage
Discussed by Dr. Jared Pingleton
with Focus on the Family www.Family.org
The majority (80%) of people believe that road rage is a serious or extremely
serious risk that jeopardizes their safety. Dr. Jared Pingleton says, “Too many
people view their car as an extension of their family room.” What does he mean
by this statement?
We have to remember that there is another human being in the car beside us that
veered into our lane or who cut us off on the freeway. We also must remember
that there is a human being in the car we almost side-swiped or didn’t see until
we had already changed lanes.
Dr. Pingleton says, “We are not going to change the other person. Try not to
react, but respond, instead.” He even uses scripture to back up his thoughts!
Listen in as he explains how people sometimes react harshly (with road rage)
because they are fearful. Put yourself in their shoes. If you believe your
safety has been threatened, try to get away from the situation by switching
lanes or pulling over for a few minutes to regain your composure.
If you would like to speak with a licensed counselor free of charge over any
relationship-type issue, please call 1.800.A.FAMILY or click [here].
More from this Guest More on this Topic More from this Organization