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November 17, 2015
Title: Keeping your Child Safe
Topic: Child Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Lindsey Holcomb
with God Made All of Me (www.GodMadeAllOfMe.com)
Part 1 of 2
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
Lindsay Holcomb is the wife of Justin Holcomb. Lindsay is here to give the
female/mother perspective of the sensitive, yet important, topic of sexual abuse
in children. Their goal is to help parents talk to their children about sex and
sexual abuse in a way that children always feel safe and protected.
Lindsay starts off the segment by talking about the “What If” game. She
believes it is important to discuss different scenarios with children to gauge
how well they understand appropriate and inappropriate touches. Children usually
have one specific thing they just absolutely love. If someone (a stranger or a
person they know) offers your child that gift in exchange for a “secret
meeting”, it might be hard for him/her to resist, unless you’ve set the
boundaries in place beforehand. Listen in as she gives specific examples for
parents to use when teaching children about sexual abuse.
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Title: Part 2 of 2 - Keeping your Child Safe
Topic: Child Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Lindsey Holcomb
with God Made All of Me (www.GodMadeAllOfMe.com)
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
Too many children are being sexually abused, many at sleepovers and even some at
church. It is a sad reality, but it is one that can be avoided with your
children if you take the necessary steps while they are young. You might be
uncomfortable; they might not understand everything right away. Lindsay Holcomb
warns against obsessing over the topic, but stresses the importance of having
more than one short conversation.
Lindsay also advises against using the word “secret” with your child.
Don’t allow your children to keep secrets from you or even have secrets among
their friends. Perpetrators will often threaten the child if he/she tells anyone
their “secret”. Children need to be assured that they can tell their
parents anything, especially if he/she thinks a person has touched them
inappropriately.
Also discussed in this segment with Lindsay are ways to heal after sexual abuse
has occurred. First, let your child know you are glad he/she told you the truth
and that you believe what they have told you. Assure your child that they are
not to be blamed in any way. “Don’t investigate on your own. Let detectives
do that. You don’t want to unintentionally give your children any answers that
might hinder the investigation,” Lindsay says.
Even adults who were abused as children should seek counseling. It’s never too
late. “This isn’t the end of your story. Evil does not win. Jesus wins,”
Lindsay declares. If you or someone you know need to talk to someone about
sexual abuse, please contact the professionals at
Rainn. Get help today.
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September 15, 2015
Title: God Made All of Me
Topic: Child Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Lindsey Holcomb
with God Made All of Me (www.GodMadeAllOfMe.com)
Part 1 of 3
Disclaimer: Use caution when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
It’s hard to talk to our children about sex, but it is a necessity, especially in today’s culture.
Lindsey Holcomb
and her husband, Justin, want to make it easier for parents to talk their kids about this issue. They stress how vital it is to begin these talks while they are young. Don’t wait until it is too late.
The focus of today’s interview with Lindsey is “child sex abuse”. Lindsey is a former case manager at a
Sexual Assault Crisis Center and Domestic Violence Shelter. The majority of child sexual assault cases happen between people who know each other, not complete strangers. Yes, teaching kids about “Stranger Danger” is important, but we also need to teach them what unwanted sexual touching entails.
Lindsey has seen the devastating and long-lasting effects child sexual abuse has on adults. Listen in as she discusses the common theme in nearly all adult cases she has assisted with. “This happens in our communities, no matter your economic level, church denomination, or race. It’s not about the stranger in the bushes anymore,” she says.
This is why Lindsey and her husband, Justin, wrote
God Made All of Me.
Share these three segments with your family and friends so they can be better equipped to talk their kids about sexual abuse.
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Title: Part 2 of 3 - God Made All of Me
Topic: Child Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Lindsey Holcomb
with God Made All of Me (www.GodMadeAllOfMe.com)
Disclaimer: Use caution
when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be
upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
Which would you rather endure: A few hours of awkward conversation over sex and
abuse with your child/teen or years’ worth of heartache knowing you could have
prevented a horrible experience in their life? It is worth it, friends. For your
child’s purity and innocence. It is worth every minute of awkward silence, every
eye roll, and every weird question you don’t have the answer to.
Lindsey Holcomb, says “The purpose of their book
God Made All of Me is not to
instill fear (in a child), but confidence and empowerment over their body.”
Early intervention is important, but if you haven’t begun the conversation yet
and your children are older, don’t despair! Sit them down, apologize, and tell
them the truth. Yes, they might be embarrassed or say “Mom, I know that!”
but don’t shy away!
The numbers don’t lie. Child sexual abuse is real and it is happening all around
us. It is not fear-mongering. Parents are not being mean if they don’t allow
their children to sleep over at someone’s house. It is being safe and cautious
and showing our kids we truly love and value them and want to protect them. If
you do allow your children to attend sleepovers, make sure you stress the
importance of the “no-touching zone”. When your child arrives back home, ask questions and make sure they were safe the entire time. If anything – anything – seems off to you, dig deeper and get answers. Don’t ignore it.
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Title: Part 3 of 3 - God Made All of Me
Topic: Child Sexual Abuse
Discussed by Lindsey Holcomb
with God Made All of Me (www.GodMadeAllOfMe.com)
Disclaimer: Use caution
when listening to this segment around young children. Issues discussed might be
upsetting or hard for little ones to understand.
One of the biggest differences in Lindsey and Justin’s book
God Made All of Me is the
use of the words “appropriate” and “inappropriate”. Often
times, when we think of the words “good” or “bad” we associate
them with “us” – that felt good, so it must be ok. Or, a child might
know something is “bad” so then they think they are bad, too. Listen in
as Lindsey explains the difference.
Kids deserve a voice, especially when they feel uncomfortable in situations.
Lindsey calls this “Personal Safety Education”. If your child doesn’t
want to hug someone, encourage them to give a high-five. Or maybe someone (an
adult, teen, or child) touches their leg too often and it makes them feel “weird”.
Don’t push away those feelings; talk to your child and the other person about
boundaries. It’s important that your children know the word “no”
and that it is ok to tell someone to stop doing something. Also, don’t ever tell
your child that you don’t believe them. Once they start believing you won’t
listen, they’ll stop talking.
Lindsey Holcomb also talks about the organization G.R.A.C.E. Godly
Response to Abuse in Christian Environments. GRACE seeks to empower the
Christian community through education and training about child sexual abuse. You
can learn more [here].
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